So, I did need some time to think about things. Still, haven't resolved all of my thoughts or the way ahead. But, for now, I opened the site back up. I may make changes about who can post, perhaps require folks to read an introductory thread before posting. Again, need to think about things and need the time to implement any changes.
First, the tenor and the contents of the responses in this thread made me HOT. First time in the nine years this board has been up that folks came here and thought it made sense to tell me to do them a favor and not answer or to "take it easy" or that my answer was "drama filled." First time also, that I have felt a real impulse to wrap up the whole site, call it a good run and spend my time elsewhere.
Second, while I am still salty about the tenor and the response, I did take the time and the main reason I am not taking extreme measures right now is that I know that there are lots of folks that we do help.
Here is what I am not okay with. Do not come here and be discourteous. Don't like what you get here, the answer is to leave (voluntarily or otherwise). The answers to most questions have been already answered many times over. So, using the search function is your friend. That aside, I am floored by the discourtesy shown me...even and especially when I still answered the questions but, the posters did not bother to search for the answers and when I gave them the answers, they did not accept them. Not only were the responses discourteous, there was a baseline discourtesy of not respecting the answers that were given in an effort to help. This made me doubt what I am doing with my time here. Still, gnawing in the back of my head is the young servicemember or spouse who does not know at all what is going on, needs help and can benefit from the forums. That is probably 90% of why I opened the forums back up so soon.
I will endeavor to help folks where I can. That is the main goal- to help folks. That is the only reason I spend my time keeping the site going and answering questions.
(BTW, no need for folks to offer further words of support. The best support is helping others and successfully navigating your case process. I do appreciate it when folks share kind words- and better, when they have gotten favorable results as a result of this community.)