The BCMR is for correcting failures to properly following regulation, its not so people get to just ignore regulation and let them take care of it. The BCMR can direct a MEB, but that shouldn't not be considered a real option.
What needs to be made clear is why with you being injured in 2009?, and profiled since 2013, they still haven't started an MEB. The story seems to be because its not interfering with your ability to do your job. This is unfortunately the correct answer, not interfering with you job means you meet retention standards and shouldn't be sent to the MEB. If the story is incorrect, then what needs to be expressed is how it is interfering with your job, and hence you should be processed for a MEB instead of allowed to just end your service.
Two approaches I would recommend. Sit down with the commander, say I want to stay in the guard, I want to overcome these issues, let me extend 6 months to show I can be a good Soldier.
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Sit down with the commander, say, look, I got these issues, they are leading into these other issues and ultimately why I can't be a good Soldier is because of my injuries. They're all related to my active duty time, I need to be processed for a MEB. Let me reenlist, send me to a fit for duty physical. If they find this stuff is making me unacceptable to be a Soldier, I'm out, but fairly compensated, you'd want the same. If they find I'm not unfit, then we can admin sep if I can't fix these other problems you have.
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The third option, is accept that its not the injuries that are forcing you out, but its you not taking your reserve commitment seriously. VA will care and compensate you for problems stemming from your service, that's what they're there for.
or the fourth option is I don't understand the story very well and can safely be ignored. The story sounds a lot like a common narrative, "I'm injured! Give me retirement!" The reality is disability retirement/seperation is to address a specific problem, not being allowed to continue serving because of disability. The "I'm injured!" is why we have the VA. The story has to stay focused on the "Let me continue serving!" and they can't find other reasons to say you can't. Then the problem becomes the "Let me continue serving!" leads them to agree and never offer disability. This also creates a reality where some are compensated more for the exact same problem, which feels wrong, fairness suggests two people hurt by their service the same way should both be entitled to the same compensation. The military is not well known for being fair.